How do I prepare my child for an uncertain future?
Which skills are needed to covert an uncertain future into a positive future? How to prepare your child for an uncertain future ain't easy, but possible. Here are 10 proven ways to help your child’s career get off to a flying start
Too often parents take the wrong approach in driving their children’s success pushing unreasonable expectations onto them and causing unnecessary pressure and stress by over-managing their lives.
Franklin D. Roosevelt once said, “We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future”.
Technology is moving at a rapid pace and many traditional careers are progressively becoming automated. Tech giant Dell claims that 85% of the jobs that will be available in 2030 have not even been invented yet, with the technological landscape set to become incognito over the next 13 years.
In a time of uncertainty and rapid change, cultivating future skills ( digital skills) and timeless skills (character traits & good habits) and committing to becoming curious about a longterm process of constant learning, is all essential qualities that will help our children to grow and develop. We owe it to them to be prepared for whatever the future might hold.
In this age of uncertainty, what is the best way to prepare our children for the future? The answer is simple! Positive social and emotional development is important. Planting and nurturing the basic needs (security, stability, consistency, emotional support, love, education, positive role models, structure and TIME) that will allow our children to thrive. Once the foundation is laid, you can start teaching and building the skills needed for the future they face.
Qualities required for success in life
Put your children in the driving seat of their own destiny. For children to be able to thrive in this new age requires them to be original, independent thinkers, trusting their intuition and be courageous and daring.
Helicopter parents need to be reminded to hand over the reins as you may play a role in decreasing your child’s confidence and self-esteem.
1. Resilience and Grit. Having a growth mindset is the understanding that taking risks sometimes leads to failure. Resilience is what enables children to emerge from challenging experiences and the ability to bounce back after failure with a positive sense of themselves and their futures. Grit is about sustained, consistent effort toward a goal even when they temporarily fail.
2. Resourcefulness. Teaching your child to be analytical by finding solutions and answers to daily problems themselves rather than being easily put off by failure, is crucial. When children are resourceful, they will always come up with new methods and possibilities making them more self-sufficient.
3. Focus and Self-Control. Focus and self-control, also known as attention skills are absolutely essential to the setting and achieving life goals. Self-control is the conflict between impulsive and reckless behaviour and doing what’s right or valuable. It is the capacity to regulate thoughts, desires or actions to achieve a higher objective.
Focus is crucial as it is the key to your total thought process. The ability to think will suffer if you lack good focus. If you can’t focus productively, you can’t think productively.
4. Encourage robust imagination. Spending time imagining, is a great exercise to flex your brain. Let your mind wander and imagine all the fantastic possibilities.
Using his imagination, one of the greatest Olympians ever, Michael Phelps used the power of visualization to his success. Use your freedom to imagine your path to a brighter future.
5. Integrity. Is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. To succeed, integrity is a prime trait to have. The world can do with more people who value integrity. For any business, society or relationship to function healthy, trust is required. Loyalty & trust is seriously lacking in today’s life.
Practising integrity instils values like love for God, love for others, honesty, kindness, courage, and a deep understanding of right and wrong. Living with integrity will fill you with peace because your conscience is clear.
6. Accountability. Is the willingness to accept responsibility for your actions, reliably deliver on your commitments, proving to others that you can be trusted to do what you say you will do. Long-term success in whatever one wants comes from people who have learned accountability for their actions and will admit when they are wrong so they can focus on the solution and not waste time and energy finding a scapegoat.
7. High self-esteem is measured by feeling good about yourself and seeing yourself as deserving of the consideration of others through your feelings, relationships and experiences. Parents play a crucial role in building their child’s self-esteem. Self-esteem can vary sometimes but the fundamental core of it stretches back to early childhood. One of the biggest threats to healthy self-esteem is the fear of failure. It’s an unnecessary concern for both parent and child. Failing at something means that you’ve tried but had some difficulty with it. The positive is finding the solution!
The only way children will learn is figuring out how to solve their own problems. The fear of failure is often instilled in children by their parents who want to protect them from feeling afraid and insecure. Teach your children to believe that they deserve success and that self-esteem is a state of mind and you can achieve anything in life if you put your mind to it.
By focussing on their own strengths, they will never compare themselves to anyone. They will develop the confidence to believe in themselves and their own abilities and have the drive and enthusiasm to achieve their goals. They will become good communicators and enjoy healthy relationships.
8. Meaningful contribution and social connections. Human beings are naturally social beings who excel in social communities that give us an essential part of our identity and teach us a collection of abilities that help us live our lives. The world is becoming progressively isolated and feeling socially connected is more important than ever. Being socially connected offer a number of mental health benefits.
One of the most crucial activities our children can engage in is contributing to their social groups, either family, school, or community. Given the opportunity to make meaningful contributions can develop skills they need to flourish as adults building self-direction, identity, and affinity. Therefore, it is important that parents support and enable their children to find opportunities to engage in meaningful contributions in their social groups, where the result can bring tangible benefits to others to help them achieve a common purpose.
9. Gratitude. Gratitude will change your child’s life. It will help them to tap into a powerful source of inspiration to witness life’s beauty and wonder. A daily gratitude practice will importantly increase their happiness and physical health.
The physical benefits of practising gratitude are endless. It will motivate your child to take better care of their health, build a stronger immune system, sleep better feeling refreshed waking up in the morning. Psychologically it will create more optimism and happiness and higher levels of positive emotion. They may become more socially supportive, compassionate, sympathetic, forgiving, outgoing, and less alone and isolated.
10. Communication. Well developed communication skills are critical for a successful future career of a child. The three most important communication skills for learners are reading, writing, and attentive listening and should never be taken for granted.
The development of communication skills in relationships is also significant. The role of expressive and managing skills will play a huge role in a child’s future. Expressive skills communicate one’s thoughts and expressions in getting across their opinion successfully to the listener. To develop expressive skills, children need to learn effective communication in getting the full attention of their audience.
Self-management discipline will help your child to become a better learner. It transfers to tactics, undertakings and strategies that are used to effectively guide our actions and behaviours. Listening abilities are important. Children should be taught to pay undivided attention to an entity with whom there is a conversation. This is polite, and in any field of life, whether professional or personal, such protocol is a part of conversation.
As parents, always strive to be a good role model. This is the most significant link in the chain. Unless you purposefully put your principles into effect, your children won’t always take you seriously. Take a decent look at your interactions and interpersonal skills and make the necessary changes if needed.
“If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings.” ― Brian Tracy