How to build self-confidence
Lack of confidence is an unattractive personality trait. Self-confidence creates an aura that draws people in. Learn how to build self-confidence.
What is self-confidence?
Self-confidence can mean different things to different individuals, but in real life it plainly means to have faith in yourself, trusting your own judgement and abilities regardless of any imperfections or of what others may believe about you.
Self-confidence reflects a broader view of yourself, rather than your confidence in specific tasks. You know your strengths and weakness well, and have a positive view of yourself.
What is self-steem?
Self esteem. The term is often confused with self-confidence. Self-esteem is used to describe a person’s overall sense of self-worth or personal value, how much you appreciate and like yourself.
It entails a variety of beliefs about yourself, such as the evaluation of your own appearance, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors. Improvements to your self-confidence can provide to your broader self-esteem.
What is low self-confidence?
Low self-confidence can be a result of many factors. Fear of failing and the unknown, criticism, being unhappy with your personal appearance (self-esteem), feeling incompetent, poor time-management skills, lack of knowledge and previous lack of success. Lack of confidence is sometimes referred to as crippling doubt.
When you lack confidence, you waste more time thinking and worrying about what other people are doing than concentrating on your own capabilities and potential. Focusing on others drains you of the positive energy you need to fuel your desires and reach your objectives.
What is low self-esteem?
Low self-esteem is identified by a lack of confidence and feeling bad about oneself. People with low self-esteem often feel dislikable, uncomfortable, or incompetent. Everyone lacks confidence sometimes but people with low self-esteem are unhappy or unsatisfied with themselves most of the time.
A person with low self-esteem finds it hard to cope with testing life events because they already believe themselves to be useless. The constant self-criticism can lead to constant feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety, wrath, humiliation or guilt.
How can you improve your self-confidence?
When you believe in yourself, you will be eager to try new things. You can take immediate steps to expect greater self-confidence in the way you behave and how you approach other people.
You can then develop a short-term plan of action into ways to build and maintain self-confidence for the longer term. Building your confidence means developing good habits.
1. Set goals – Your actions and your decisions determines your character. Setting goals helps activate new behaviours. If you want to succeed, you need to set goals. Without goals, you lack focus and direction. Set goals that motivate you and that relate to the high priorities in your life. Goals should be relevant to the direction you want your life to take. Goals must be measurable and clearly defined. Your goals must have a time limit. When you work on a time limit, your sense of urgency increases.
Write down your goals. People who write down their goals are more likely to achieve it than those who don’t. It will help to create a vision in your mind of how you want to be in the future. You can visually see the goal and understand the difference it will make in your life. It’s important to remember you can gain confidence simply by taking action towards your goal even if you are not satisfied with the result you were looking for. Keep in mind that success is in the effort and not necessarily the result.
2. Take care of your body. Poor body image can have a greater impact on your quality of life than you may realise. We tend to focus on how our body looks and not what it can do. Forget what it looks like and rather spends some time focusing on the fantastic things it can do. Building your self-confidence takes work. If you have a poor body image, it can take a while to repair. Why not start now?
No one is perfect. Know that perfection is more of an idea than a reality. Aiming for perfection will only let you down. Appreciate your own body. Take note of everything you like about yourself and remind yourself regularly of all your positive attributes. Exercise regularly. You can be active by playing a sport or you can run, cycle, walk, gym, do yoga or swim. Working out and setting goals can help you feel great both physically and mentally.
Learn what foods are good for you and eat healthily. Eating correctly will help you to look your best. It will give you the energy you need and boost your body image. When you manage your body right, you feel good about yourself. Try to keep to a healthy weight that is good for you. It will help you to feel good about your body
3.Try new things that make you uncomfortable. The nature of your comfort zone is that it’s comfortable. The U.S. Navy SEALs have a saying: Get comfortable being uncomfortable.
If you can be comfortable being uncomfortable, it will help to build self-confidence and be prepared to handle whatever situation comes along in your own life.
Stepping outside your comfort zone is key to discovering your passion, accomplishing your goals, and finding happiness. The only way to experience what is outside of you is to move. While you are in your comfort zone, you’re not moving and therefore you cannot develop and grow.
With your goals written down, start moving stepping outside your comfort zone ever so slightly, and as you gain the energy take a bigger step forward and step further outside of your comfort zone until you have built the confidence to go after your goals with vigour and not let anything hold you back.
4. Live by your values and everything else will fall into place. Your core values play an enormous part in how you decide to live your life. What are core values?
- Dependability, reliability, loyalty, commitment, open-mindedness, consistency, honesty, efficiency, innovation, creativity, compassion, motivation, positivity, optimism, passion, respect, fitness, courage, education, perseverance and service to others.
If you are not satisfied with certain parts of your life, you should ask yourself what is important to me and how I want to live my life. You need to spend time identifying your values. Don’t live by someone else’s values as it makes life hard as you will never be true to yourself.
When you learn and practice values, you will become more confident and make better choices. This will also be a great way to raise self-esteem.
Mindset separates the best from the rest
“The difference between the good and the great is the difference between your mindset and your skill set. Mindset separates the best from the rest: the right mindset drives the right habits, which drive the right performance.” – Jo Owen
5. Self-confidence starts with the right mindset. There are two distinct types, a fixed and growth mindset. People with a fixed mindset believe that their abilities are limited and cannot be changed. Those with a growth mindset believe that change and growth are always possible.
A growth mindset leads to a passion for learning, personal development, confidence and self-resiliency that provides a healthy, practical mind and body approach to help us through all the downsides of life. Choosing to cultivate a growth mindset is possible for anyone.
Start taking control of aspects in your life by applying the power of intention. The power of intention is the power of a focused mind. Utilize the power of your mind to influence your life. You will know that when you’ve made up your mind about something, it will almost feel like you have a special power to make your goal happen.
Self-confidence will help you to take on the world with more energy and determination. You will feel good about yourself and know that your place in the world is important and meaningful. Start changing today!
If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living – Gail Sheehy